Just as I was getting ready for bed tonight, I hopped onto Twitter to see how my regular lovlies were doing when I was introduced to this very interesting concept: The FAKE NERD GIRL.

From what I can gather, the FNG is a individual of the female persuasion who only likes nerdy or geeky things because it’s…..well, this is where I am unclear. Either it’s because it’s POPULAR or because she wants to tease the boys.

(Scratches head)

Wait, you means I am a FNG just so the BOYZ WILL LIKEZ ME?! Woah! Bats eyelashes! Tosses hair! Pouts lips! Sticks out chest! BOYZ!!! (Insert eye-roll here)

I can’t be the only person here who is shouting at their computer OH COME THE FRACK ON?! While I have not always been a life-long self affirmed and PROUD Nerd, it certainly doesn’t make me fake, nor does it to any of my nerd-sisters. Length of time associating ones self as awesomely of the nerd variety does not a true blooded nerd make. It is the heart and love of whatever you find fascinating.

I find it interesting that yet again main stream culture is depicting women only as objects for male sexualization and gratification. I mean, really, get over yourselves. Some Nerd women are hot, some are not, but we are all awesome…and we all have perfectly functioning minds whose inter-workings are not dependent on wondering if some random dude is going to find us attractive.

Just curious….do YOU remember your first Con, RPG, LARPing, Munchkin match, weekend playing Arkham Horror? I do. I remember nervously dressing up as Integra Hellsing worrying that someone was going to find out that I had just watched the series for the first time and I would be outed as a fraud. I knew I was going to Otakon with a boy and his friends who were regular Cosplayers and watched the Anime since they said the character would fit my body type. And you know what? LOVED IT. Everyone at Otakon was AWESOME, people took my picture and I took theirs. No one sneered at me because I was a n00b, they appreciated my efforts as a particular character. The geek/nerd world has always felt like the most welcoming community so I am saddened to hear about this crap.  The initial acceptance I felt lead me into a deep and life-long love of all things nerdy and geeky.

Being a nerd isn’t just one thing. You can love Sci-Fi and Fantasy, but despise Anime. You can love reading Young Adult Lit and dislike Wrestling. The beautiful thing about being a part of a nerd community is that what used to make you “uncool” in the eyes of so many people simply don’t matter anymore because most of the people around you are fascinated by your uniqueness.  This community should be welcoming people who are open to learning, not degrading them for trying to find out what our “culture” is about.

If so called “hot” women want to come to Cons or wherever all dolled up in their best Sailor Scout costume I say bring it on! My Integra Hellsing costume is not offended. Hell, I might actually learn something about Sailor Scouts (I sadly, do not know everything)!

We all started somewhere. Whether it be because our parents read us comic books, or siblings sat us in their laps and gave us a battery-less Nintendo controller, that someone explained us what the heck this Magic game was at the lunch table (and how in the hell does a die have TWENTY SIDES?!) , or that we were 26 and dating a gamer who also happened to open our eyes to Doctor Who. Who cares?! The way I look at it, the more people who embrace their inner nerd the more great people I get to meet either in life or online.

 So, in short, channel your inner Harvest Moon, gather some wood and stones, build a bridge, and get over it.